Have you heard the phrase strict parents raise sneaky kids? Have you heard of the phrase chill parents raising irresponsible kids? If both are wrong then which is right? Why is it so complicated?
Before you start reading this article I want to give a big disclaimer: this article is not made to make fun of how you were raised and how you plan to raise your kids, but this is an informative article on different parenting techniques and how teenagers turn out with each techniques. Different factors in a person’s life result in their behavior as a teenager. With that being said, parenting techniques can affect the person you are today. The parts of our personality that are changed by the way we were parented is what we will be discussing in today’s article.
As a product of strict parents, I can testify that, yes, strict parents raise sneaky kids. However, I do believe that there are two different types of strict parents. One version of strict parents are paranoid parents. They are worried sick, so they don’t let their kids do anything. This isolates them from experiencing things that they should at their age because they’re healthy and something they’ll need in the future. Type 2 strict parents are parents that have concerns for their kids, but they’re not banning activities. Rather, they’re monitoring what their kids are doing. Not watching their every move, but they’re making sure they know what’s going on in their kids’ lives. This will give their teenagers the personal space to grow. Now which one sounds better to you, type one or type 2?
Now, there are also two types of chill parents. Type 1 chill parents are besties with their children. They share their problems with their kids and the kids share their problems with the parents. There is little to no discipline, and they’re both relying on each other for comfort and happiness. The relationship is equal on each side, so the parent and the child both have responsibilities. Okay, then there is Type 2 of chill parents. These are the parents who want their kids to experience life and want to be friends with their kids. However, the major difference between type 1 and type 2 is that type two parents do not share their burdens and rely on their kids. Which one do you think is better?
Overall, we can realize that there should be a balance, like most things in the world. Each side of an argument has something good about it and something negative about it. When we take the positive sides of each argument, we come up with a solution that ultimately solves almost all the problems. Now, this is something that you must consider. The phrase goes like this: each child deserves and needs a different type of parent. Have you ever heard of a set of parents that have two boys and two daughters and they say that they raise their two daughters more strictly than their two sons? Why does that seem unfair? Well, this raises a whole different argument: should girls and boys be raised the same or differently? ( that’s a topic for another discussion) See you next month…
